I love being part of the newly formed Open group on FB- it’s really refreshing to read other people’s perspectives and opinions on poly/open related stuff.
One thing in particular that sparked my interest recently is the idea of couple privilege, and also how the primary/secondary model leaves a lot to be desired (for some).
Here are the articles offered by several friends in the group that sparked such great conversation:
Thanks for noting my first SoloPoly post on couple privilege. It is a thorny and uncomfortable issue — both for people who are part of a primary couple, and for people who are either solo or who are non-primary partners. It's of course valid to choose to enshrine couple privilege in how you conduct your relationships; the key is being completely up-front early in a relationship about how this might affect non-primary partners, and about why you're choosing to embrace couple privilege (what you think that will achieve).
Also, I did publish some substantive additional posts that also might interest you:
http://solopoly.net/2012/11/27/non-primary-partners-tell-how-to-treat-us-well/
http://solopoly.net/2013/02/05/couple-privilege-having-it-doesnt-necessarily-make-you-an-asshole-but-it-can/
Thanks for commenting! I do agree it's a thorny and uncomfortable issue, and I appreciate how insightful and articulate you are on the subject. I'll look at those posts of yours, and thanks for providing them for other readers, too!