Haha 🙂 It’s amazing to have wonderful support, love, and encouragement from someone… and even more amazing to have all of that when meeting other people can be so rough!… and even more amazing when new relationships DO work out, and it means we have even MORE support, connection, and love in our lives!
So we had an eventful weekend. I went into the ER on Friday morning from what turned out to be appendicitis… I had my appendix taken out on Friday afternoon and came home on Saturday. J has been the most perfect hausfrau and nurse, and hopefully I will be back to my normal self in the next week or so.
BUT: it hurts to laugh, sneeze, cough, and basically do anything that uses my abs.
The crazy part of this to me is that none of my providers even mentioned this tiny little fact to me! They said, rest, walk around when you can, no strenuous exercise until fully healed (about 1-2 weeks). But, in my delirium, I didn’t put it together that this also meant NO SEX!
Luckily, this is where Sexual Intelligence comes in super handy. Making out, massage, cuddling, giving hand jobs or oral… all of these would be totally satisfying for me. Even if I can’t masturbate or orgasm, giving someone else pleasure is a pleasurable activity for me. So maybe I can stop crying about it and start whispering dirty things into J’s ear 😉
For all of our lovely friends who read our blog:
I am giving a presentation in a Human Sexuality class on relationship styles, and I would love your feedback on my draft presentation! If there are critical components of open relationships, or about monogamy, that you think I am missing, please let me know! Leave a comment or send us an email. I want this presentation to be relevant and interesting for my class! Or if there are other pieces of information that you think I should include, or points I should definitely make, please let me know 🙂
Relationship Styles Presentation
(the link should take you to the Google doc of the presentation)
- You can’t go out to late night dinners together. You can have lunch together in a public place, but you should not order alcoholic beverages. “The embers of attraction really can grow in situations like that, and suddenly it’s not so innocent, it’s not just friendship anymore,” Rabbi Shmuley says.
- You can’t take long drives or long flights with the other person, even if it’s for work. “Even if you have to work with a colleague [of the opposite sex], there are still certain boundaries you need to preserve,” he says.
- You cannot place yourself in any situation where romance can grow. “Romance grows when people are alone; romance grows when people tell secrets,” Rabbi Shmuley says.
- You can’t share secrets with a platonic male or female friend that you don’t share with your spouse. “Because then you’re sharing an exclusivity with a member of the opposite sex that you’re not with your partner, and that can lead to a big no-no,” he says.
- You should not be friends with ex-lovers.