Another thing that I did talk about with my counselor, and something that J brought up with me today after reading my last post, was that people do all sorts of jobs for all sorts of reasons.
My counselor: “Everyone has ‘daddy issues,’ or ‘parent issues.’ Strippers, counselors, doctors- maybe most of all, doctors.” We both laughed.
I think she’s right, and I think J is right. The further complexity comes, for me, with the fact that sex workers are marginalized, not well understood, and stigmatized. As is common with most minority group experiences, a minority members ends up standing for everyone in that minority group, while a member from a dominant group is allowed the freedom to stand alone in their experience. (Bob [a white man] succeeded at building a business simply because he had the ambition, etc, whereas “all Asians” are smart. Dominant group stereotypes can and do exist, but they are rarely used to explain dominant member experiences.)
So- I feel a lot of personal pressure and responsibility for not contributing to negative stereotypes about strippers. To admit that I have “mommy issues,” love getting attention and approval, and embrace my sexuality (on a wide spectrum) makes me nervous.
I again dodged a question about work today while at school. As I was beginning to tell a group of classmates about my work, we got interrupted and the conversation didn’t return to me. This gives me more time to reflect 🙂