Sunday Reclamation Affirmations

This week I want to focus on love and expectations.

Do you ever find yourself giving to others (emotionally, mentally, materially, sexually, etc) with hidden hopes that you will receive something in return? Are you able to give with the intention to simply give? The hidden expectations can often sour relationships, as bitterness and resentment build up over time when you don’t receive the things that you have been trying to get by giving yourself to others. And what is it you are trying to get exactly? Is it love? Respect? Validation? Support? Sex? Intimacy? Try crafting your own affirmation to set forth an intention that whatever you have been hungry for, you do and will have in your life.

This has been a major part of my own personal work the past six months or so.

I now affirm that I love others without expecting anything in return.

I now affirm that love is infinite and that I will always have enough.

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One thought on “Sunday Reclamation Affirmations

  1. K:

    One of my favorite writer/advocates for polyamory is Kamala Devi. I don’t know if the quote is original to her or not, but she has made the remark “There IS enough of me to go around” – a nice twist on an old expression about not being capable of every demand one is given. But it’s a nice way to express that love shouldn’t be thought of as a finite resource, that will “run out”.

    An inspiring friend made the analogy about her experiences as a mother. I’m paraphrasing. “When you have your first child, you think you couldn’t POSSIBLY love anything as much as that child. They are the center of your world. But when you have another one, you find that you love this next one JUST AS MUCH as the first one. If you have a loving heart, it keeps expanding”.

    And yet we culturally behave as if it’s impossible for people to love more than one intimate partner. Or that if we have a primary partner, that other relationships are just menial or abusive or purely recreational. Those outside looking in just see it as dysfunctional or harmful or delusional. They don’t see it as loving, supportive, and enriching. Of course, in cultures with polygamy around the world, often these situations truly are abusive, possessive, and harmful to certain members. But that is often a factor of a lot of other factors that would take a much longer discussion that I want to explore here. Maybe that’s a topic you might expand on sometime yourself here. I don’t mind pitching blog ideas to you 🙂

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