Can I just give five stars to Jen Sincero’s The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks??
Five words: Hilarious. Exciting. Practical. Hilarious. Sexy.
Sincero wrote the book geared toward women who have primarily been partnered and interested in men, but have now come to realize that they have an interest, slight curiosity, or fantasy about being with women. I felt like I was not quite her intended audience, since I am already convinced I like being with women, I want to be with women, and I want a girlfriend. She also, in her attempts to persuade her hetero-normative straight-ish female counterparts, makes some off-color (albeit, funny!) jokes about lesbians, which I didn’t totally appreciate. Overall, though, Sincero’s upbeat and friendly writing style sustained my attention and I finished the book within a couple of days.
She has advice on getting to know yourself and desires to be more familiar and comfortable being with women sexually (read: masturbate and read erotica/watch porn), where and how to meet women, and really practical advice on sex with women (positions and techniques). She also has great sections on using toys and negotiating threesomes.
My favorite part of the whole book I think though, is her introduction, “The Joy of Sex with Chicks.” Following is an excerpt, and I include it because I hold all of the same pros of being with women:
“1. When you’re with another chick, the roles can switch back and forth in a much more equal and fluid way…
2. The way women women orgasm is so different from the way guys do. We don’t need to stop and recharge before starting up again, so we can go on and on till the break of dawn without a time-out…
3. I found that every time I did something to her, I could imagine I was doing it to myself. So much so that I could practically feel it even if I wasn’t touching myself at all. The combo of watching her get off and imagining exactly what it must feel like could bring me to orgasm.
4. Women’s bodies are unbelievably soft! They’re like the softest pillows in the world. This has made me totally understand why men go apeshit over us. It also made me aware of my own body’s softness, and it made me feel incredibly sexy in a way I never had before.
5. Lastly, because we live in a society that has a large stick up its ass, also because my sexual hometown is Straightyville, sleeping with someone I wasn’t ‘supposed’ to made me feel kind of kinky. This turned me on like nobody’s business… (pxi-xiii).”
Now, if I could just meet a girl… 😉